Mum Blogs and Oversharing
I feel like I’m at a crossroads when it comes to blogging – not in terms of whether I want to write, or whether to blog at all, but mostly considering WHAT I write about. Namely, X.
I turned to blogging after trawling through thousands of posts by other Mums – they ranged from the insightful and informative, to hard hitting and upsetting. But my favourite posts were those who managed to make me feel like less of a failure as a parent by highlighting all the mundane crap that goes on when you’ve got little children. The ones where they detail the fails of the day, but end it all with proclaiming how very much they love their children, love being parents, even if it might be the hardest, most tiring job in the world.
That’s why I wrote posts like Surviving Breastfeeding Week – someone out there might just get some use out of it. It might help pick them up when they’re having a bad day, or boost them when they’re down. That’s what other blogs do for me.
The one thing in common with most of these blogs is the kids – you can’t be a parenting blog without talking about them. X is 2 and a bit, and has no concept of the internet, or even self image. He’s no idea that pictures and stories about him can be accessed globally by people he will never meet or know exist.
And that’s starting to bother me a bit now. How would I feel if someone was going around writing about my personal development and posting pictures of me that I had no say about? My personal Facebook account is on serious privacy lock-down, so even certain people I’m friends with don’t see a lot of my posts.
Granted, I’ve never posted anything particularly embarrassing, either on here or on Facebook – yes there’s the odd snap of him covered in chocolate spread, or just in a nappy, but don’t we all have pictures like that? I vividly remember my Mom having a picture of my sister covered in either beans or spaghetti hoops proudly hanging on the living room wall for all to see.
Keeping some anonymity has always been important; I’ve never posted his full name or date of birth for example. But it’s the pictures that are my sticking point.
Before X was born, I dipped my toe into Professional Photography; mostly for theatrical productions, some portraits and even a TV show on Channel 5, and I’m hoping once X is at nursery school I can knuckle down and start doing it again. I love taking photos of him, and for all intents and purposes those photos are going to be the cornerstone of my portfolio in order to build up my client base and attract customers; I have to be realistic. When it comes to being a budding photographer the people around you who will willingly pose are your greatest asset!
If, once he becomes aware of his own internet presence, he wants all of this removed I shan’t hesitate. He has that right to privacy and I wouldn’t think of going against that.
We’re the first generation of Mums who share their kids lives online – parents have been proudly showing off pictures of their kids since we’ve had pictures, hell I imagine those who could afford it 500 years ago were showing off their portraits. We want to show the world our beautiful creations, and I don’t think it’s wrong to be proud of our little ones.
I’m not sure what’s going to happen to the blog – it needs an overhaul and I need to make a decision about how much to share. I’m not “internet famous” so I’m not too concerned about how far his image will reach, but I have to consider how the type of thing I share will impact my son in the future. The internet is forever, after all…